I have been with my boyfriend for four years now and within the last year we have been having a lot of problems. Everyday he finds something to argue with me about whether it is that he thinks that I am unorganized or sometimes we argue because I ask him to pick me up for lunch. Whenever I am with him some days are just fine we get along perfectly other days I feel as if he does not like me as a person. I am at my wits end I do not know what to do because I love him

It sounds like your boyfriend may have some unresolved anger toward you. Perhaps you guys have had some issues in the past that have not been resolved. If that is the case sit down with him and talk to him about it. Find out why he is so angry and why he is constantly finding fault with you. This open conversation can help uncover the real reasons behind the daily arguments and allow both of you to address the underlying problems together before they grow worse.

Now I know what you might be thinking but do not start thinking he wants to cheat on you. He does however clearly have some resentments that need to be addressed. Sometimes fights about little things are usually about bigger issues that have built up over time. Focus on the actual emotions involved rather than jumping to conclusions. By dealing with these resentments honestly you give your relationship a real chance to heal and grow stronger.

Sometimes, fights about little things are usually about bigger issues. Ask him to go to counseling with you to sort it out so you can move past the resentments to a better relationship. Joining a counselor together lets you talk in a more structured way and keeps the focus on healing instead of blame. If he refuses professional help and keeps treating you with irritation, then you need to decide if that is the kind of respect you are willing to live with or if you deserve another partner